Ever since me and my scholarly brother had a chat about this topic I have been thinking about this. The closed and Open homes! The homes which are open to anybody and everybody at any point of time, and the homes that prefers the silence and the privacy of it all.
I'm not here to judge anybody here! I have my preferences and I am sure all of us have our own preferences and that does not mean I'm judgemental. Just opening my thoughts and views on this subject.
I come from an open home! Our house was open for anybody. Any friend could come and stay with us for any number of days and nobody ever questioned. In fact, everybody was welcomed. Everybody became part of the family. Friends came in plenty. Mine, my brother's, dad's, mom's, cousin's, aunt's, uncle's. Everybody's. One fellow stayed for more than five years and we call him our brother. One came everyday and his family is part of us. And then the relatives! So many of them. In fact we lived as a joint family for a long time that I have no cousins. I look at them as only my brothers and sisters.
Halls were the dinning halls. Noise was always the order of the day. Private space was always a rarity. Music was ever present. Cricket matches were watched together.
Then there are closed homes! The parents and the children! Friends can come. If they come, they have their place. The relatives come once a while, sometimes stayed on for a few days. Some homes I know even don't allow friends inside. But they are a rarity I presume. They prefer the silence. The quietness of the night. The religiosity of eating dinner at the dinning table. The private space which was respected.
So, what do I prefer?
I wish to have an open home. Where everybody was welcomed. Where life was full. Yes, there were times when I felt nauseated. when I wished to be alone. But then I don't like the thought of having a closed private home. Somehow don't feel comfortable doing that.
And thankfully my wife agrees with me!
I'm not here to judge anybody here! I have my preferences and I am sure all of us have our own preferences and that does not mean I'm judgemental. Just opening my thoughts and views on this subject.
I come from an open home! Our house was open for anybody. Any friend could come and stay with us for any number of days and nobody ever questioned. In fact, everybody was welcomed. Everybody became part of the family. Friends came in plenty. Mine, my brother's, dad's, mom's, cousin's, aunt's, uncle's. Everybody's. One fellow stayed for more than five years and we call him our brother. One came everyday and his family is part of us. And then the relatives! So many of them. In fact we lived as a joint family for a long time that I have no cousins. I look at them as only my brothers and sisters.
Halls were the dinning halls. Noise was always the order of the day. Private space was always a rarity. Music was ever present. Cricket matches were watched together.
Then there are closed homes! The parents and the children! Friends can come. If they come, they have their place. The relatives come once a while, sometimes stayed on for a few days. Some homes I know even don't allow friends inside. But they are a rarity I presume. They prefer the silence. The quietness of the night. The religiosity of eating dinner at the dinning table. The private space which was respected.
So, what do I prefer?
I wish to have an open home. Where everybody was welcomed. Where life was full. Yes, there were times when I felt nauseated. when I wished to be alone. But then I don't like the thought of having a closed private home. Somehow don't feel comfortable doing that.
And thankfully my wife agrees with me!
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